Back in 2012, I thought I had finally conquered financial FOMO after walking away from a well-paying finance job. But after having children, I’ve noticed more and more relapses. If you’ve found yourself battling the desire for more money than you truly need, this post is for you.
Ever since returning to San Francisco from our 36-day trip to Honolulu, I’ve been feeling a greater sense of FOMO. The first week back hit especially hard when Figma IPOed and surged 333% on its first day. Suddenly, we were right back to frenzied markets, with retail investors piling in at sky-high prices.
In Honolulu, my focus was on mainly three things: 1) family, 2) exercise, and 3) remodeling my parents’ in-law unit. Those three priorities consumed all my bandwidth. Between supercommuting and construction, I was spent most days, with little time left to think about chasing investments.
Pickleball and then the beach were my escape. While waiting for the next game, conversations revolved around recapping rallies, kids, or which store sold the best Pirie mangoes. Careers and investments never came up, except when I asked a couple players about Honolulu’s cost of living. The vibe was refreshingly present, grounded, and calm.
The Return Back Was Somewhat Jolting
I had never taken my family on such a long trip before, so the contrast with life back home was especially clear.
With just the four of us at home, family logistics became simpler, familiar camps smoothed out childcare every other week, and the remodeling burden was finally lifted. With all that mental headspace freed up, my mind inevitably drifted back to the markets and to the unsettling realization that the AI boom was racing ahead without me.
On the pickleball courts here, the chatter couldn’t have been more different. Nearly everyone was talking about tech stocks, the bull market, and the next big AI play. Why? Because nearly everyone either works in tech or invests heavily in it. There was no escaping the mania. I found myself longing for the calmer rhythm of Honolulu again.
The Moment That Reduced My FOMO Tremendously
Then something unexpected happened that broke my financial FOMO fever. The first weekend back home, I went to a neighborhood gathering at a local park. Familiar faces were everywhere, including one dad I occasionally hang out with. He works in venture, so I asked whether he ever felt the same financial FOMO I’d been struggling with since returning.
He shrugged. “Kinda, but not really.” Why would he? He spends his days looking for the next big winner, so opportunities are always flowing across his desk. Though he did mention once passing on a company that went on to be a huge success.
That surprised me. If anyone should feel FOMO, it’s investors who had the chance and said no, far worse than never getting a look at all, which is the reality for most of us. If I never had the opportunity, then there was no missing out in the first place. But it also made sense he didn’t feel much financial FOMO since he was already immersed in the hunt for more.
We kept chatting. He asked how my summer had been, so I shared some stories from our time away. Naturally, I asked about his summer too, expecting to hear about some big trip since his family had traveled a lot before. But instead, he told me they hadn’t gone anywhere. He’d been too busy working. Two months into summer, and he was still grinding away.
That was my “ah hah” moment. Suddenly, my financial FOMO evaporated. Here was someone, at least twice as wealthy as me, stuck at home because of work. It reminded me of my banking days, when I had to ask for permission to take vacation—like a kid asking his parents for pocket money. What a crock!
I’m sure his hard work this summer will make him millions more. But he’s already rich. At our age, I don’t want to sacrifice too much time with my kids for incremental wealth that won’t materially change our lifestyle. 18 summers isn’t a lot. I’ve got enough passive income to cover our family’s basic needs. That freedom, I was reminded, is worth more than chasing the next big score.
The Six Steps To Reducing Your Intense FOMO
Financial FOMO comes from comparison, insecurity about our own progress, and the fear of missing a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. It tends to peak during bull markets, when it feels like everyone else is getting rich except you.
I’m not sure anybody is truly immune to financial FOMO. You can be wealthy, financially independent, retired, or even work in venture capital, and still feel it. But FOMO left unchecked can push you into bad investment decisions, such as buying at peaks, overextending on margin, or constantly second-guessing yourself.
Here are six tactical yet practical steps that may help you manage FOMO better:
1) Build a Core Portfolio You Rarely Touch
One of the best ways to combat FOMO is to remind yourself that you already own a piece of the future. If you’re invested in equities, real estate, Bitcoin, or venture, you’re covered. Even holding something as simple as the S&P 500 means you’re participating in the ongoing growth of our economy. The exact mix of your asset allocation is up to you. What matters most is having a stake in assets that can carry you forward, so you don’t feel pressured to chase every hot new opportunity.
I keep the bulk of my public equity investments in broad index funds. Meanwhile, about 40% of my net worth in real estate, and 15% in private companies.With a solid core, it becomes much easier to tune out the noise and ignore the hype cycles.
For example, if AI truly sparks a wave of IPOs, new startups, and thousands of newly minted millionaires, at least my San Francisco real estate should benefit. I recently experienced a rental bidding war for one of my properties and that’s before the AI IPO wave has even arrived. Investing in the picks and shovels helps ensure you will financially benefit, no matter what.
2) Allocate a “FOMO Fund”
Instead of trying to suppress the urge to participate, give yourself permission, but with guardrails. Roughly 40% of my public equities are in individual growth names, mostly tech. This way, when I see headlines about breakthroughs, like quantum computing, I feel like I’m part of the story rather than left on the sidelines. Of course, during the next correction, I will also lose more than the average index fund investor too.
I’ve also carved out a dedicated “FOMO Fund”—about 5% of my overall portfolio—for speculative money. That’s where I can dabble in individual private companies, new venture funds, or even short-term trends. If it pays off, great. If not, it won’t derail my financial plan. By containing the risk, you scratch the itch while protecting your long-term wealth.
3) Systematize Your Investing With Automation
One reason FOMO hits so hard is because investing often feels optional and emotional. A simple antidote: automation. Dollar-cost averaging into index funds, ETFs, individual stocks, or funds removes the decision-making stress. When money flows into the market on a schedule, you don’t sit around debating whether to chase the next hot stock. Instead, you’re already steadily invested, no matter what the headlines say.
For example, after opening a new personal Innovation Fund account earmarked for my kids with $26,000 ($500 bonus if you invest over $25,000), I enrolled in auto-invest at $2,500 a month. It’s enough out of my cash flow to feel involved without feeling strain.One year later, that’s $30,000 invested; after 10 years, $300,000.
Without automation, it’s easy to fall off track because life gets busy. I have over 30 investment accounts to manage between the four of us. Inevitably, I’m going to miss something, which is why automation is so important to free up mental bandwidth.
I’m concerned my kids may have little chance of becoming financially independent on their own in an AI-driven, hyper-competitive world. Therefore, every dollar I automate for them helps reduce that concern, while ensuring their money is working even if I get distracted.
4) Use Opportunity Cost as a Filter
Before jumping on the next hot idea, I try to ask: What am I giving up if I do this? Am I sacrificing cash flow, peace of mind, or time with family? Am I risking capital I’ll need in five years for housing, education, or flexibility? During bear markets, I certainly get a little more moody. By forcing yourself to weigh trade-offs, you realize some FOMO-driven decisions don’t actually pass the test. I
As someone who enjoys investing more than spending, this opportunity cost exercise often flips for me. I tend to think instead: What is the opportunity cost of spending money on something I don’t really need versus the potential returns if I invested it? Buying this unnecessary $120,000 Range Rover could turn into $300,000 in five years if invested well!
Still, the reality is that not all investments work out, especially the most speculative ones. Corrections and bear markets are a natural part of investing. Which is why it’s worth asking a different version of the question too: What are the joys I’m giving up today in exchange for an investment that may never pan out? That balance helps keep you grounded, whether you lean toward spending or investing.
Losing Money Quickly
Just look at the Figma IPO. I suspect FOMO drove many investors to pile in on day one, paying $100–$133 a share. Fast forward just a few weeks, and the stock is already down about 40% from its peak. I would much rather have spent $25,000 on a memorable family vacation than invested it in Figma and watched $10,000 vanish in two weeks. YOLO!
Chasing hot IPOs at extraordinary valuations is dangerous, so please be careful. Instead, consider investing in these companies before they go IPO so you can sell to investors who experience maximum FOMO.
Always remind yourself that you can and will lose money. Sometimes, this fact is easy to forget during a bull market.
5) Define “Enough” Clearly
FOMO often creeps in when you don’t have a clear baseline for what success actually means to you. If your target is always a vague “more,” then no matter how much progress you make, someone else will always appear to be ahead – whether it’s their bigger house, higher net worth, or latest hot investment. That mindset makes contentment impossible.
What helps is defining enough. For me, that’s when passive income reliably covers our family’s basic living expenses. Once that box is checked, every dollar beyond is truly optional. I can put it toward growth investments, donate it, or try to spend it guilt-free on experiences.
After I hit a passive income target, I try and shift my mindset back toward an early retirement lifestyle. This means less striving, more enjoying. Anchoring to “enough” quiets the noise, and reminds me that I’ve already got enough.
Once you know your number and can sustain your lifestyle, you realize chasing endlessly isn’t freedom, it’s another form of bondage.
6) Change Your Environment
Finally, FOMO isn’t just about the markets, it’s about the people around you. Living in go-getter cities like San Francisco or New York means you’re constantly surrounded by the most ambitious and competitive people. Many of whom are making big money in tech, finance, or startups. The conversations, the headlines, even the birthday gatherings, it all feeds into a sense that you’re in this constant battle where you’re often falling behind.
One way to dial that back is to physically change your environment. Moving to, or even spending extended time in, a slower-paced city or town gives you space to breathe. Suddenly, not everyone is talking about the latest IPO or AI fundraise. Conversations shift to family, community, or quality of life.
It doesn’t mean giving up ambition or opportunity, you can still build wealth anywhere. But by lowering the ambient noise of competition, you reduce the constant comparison game that fuels financial FOMO.
Final Thoughts On Getting Rid Of FOMO
Markets will always swing from euphoria to despair, and there will always be someone making more money than you. But with a sound core portfolio, a small space to take punts, and a clear definition of enough, you can stay disciplined while still scratching the investing itch.
FOMO doesn’t disappear, but with the right systems, it can be managed so it doesn’t manage you.
Readers, do you experience financial FOMO? If not, how do you manage it so you don’t feel like you’re constantly missing out on financial gains? Interestingly, the vast majority of people I speak with in real life say they don’t really struggle with financial FOMO. That makes me curious — what strategies do you use to tame this beast?
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